It’s that time of year where stores are filled with chocolates, roses, and hues of pink. Many people are wondering if this will be the year they spend Valentine’s day with the one. High-school relationships can be hard to navigate, so Cupid created a form to ask Whitney Young students if they have any questions about relationships (and situationships). Continue reading to see what your fellow classmates asked! 

Submitted by M, ’26

Q: If my partner seems irritated but refuses to explain what I did wrong, how do I fix things? Is it possible to make a relationship work without my parents finding out?

A: I think it would be best to let your partner know that you sense something is wrong and ask if they would like to talk about it or if they need some space. Make it clear that you are okay with either of these choices and want to fix things. Some people need more time to open up than others. If they still refuse to explain their irritation after a few days, I would confront them again and let them know how you feel as a result of their irritation. As for your second question, I believe it is possible. In order for this to work, however, you would need to also communicate this to your partner so they don’t get the idea that you are “ashamed” of them or intentionally hiding the relationship.

Submitted by H, ’24

Q: How do I know if I’m in love?

A: Love looks and feels different for everyone. I feel that love is a strong desire to be with someone and not being able to imagine your life without that person. It also feels like wanting to spend as much time with them as possible,

almost never being bored of them. It feels like wanting to support them in every endeavor, and wanting them to do the same. Again, since love feels different for everyone, the feeling may be different for you–there is no one formula.

Submitted by K, ’27

Q: How do I get my crush to break up with his girlfriend so I can get with him?

A: This is messy… my advice would be to focus on yourself first and forget him. While the idea of dating him might be nice, it’s not worth it in my opinion to break up the couple, as it might not even work out and then there would be three people who are hurt. Why get involved in another relationship if it isn’t necessary? I love drama, however, it’s better to watch it than to be involved. At the end of the day if your crush likes someone else and seems happy, then you’re better off without him and it most likely wouldn’t have worked out anyways. Perhaps you can be friends first and see where that goes.

Submitted by E, ’25

Q: How long is too long for a talking stage?

A: I would say 3 months. After that point I would hope you and your crush know each other well enough to know where you want your relationship to go. If neither of you have made a move or it doesn’t seem to be working, put a pin in it and come back later if it’s the wrong time. Otherwise, move on. No one is worth wasting your time.

Submitted by B, ’25

Q: Why are people dating less?

A: I personally have not noticed people less dating, however, I do notice that the people who choose not to date are typically ones who are very comfortable with themselves. Some reasons people may be dating less are wanting to focus on other aspects of their life, trouble finding a person that fits their needs, or simply a lack of desire to have a partner due to past relationships/the portrayal of relationships in their past.

Hopefully these students asked relationship questions you might have also had! Take this advice as you wish, at the end of the day a relationship only works if the people in it are willing to work together and respect each other’s values. If you want to have your relationship question featured in an upcoming article, fill out the survey on the wybeaconnews.org version of this article by February 29th. Remember, if you don’t get your chocolates and roses this Valentine’s day, there’s always next year.